Saturday, March 28, 2009

The Elixir of Life

Everytime I listen to it or read it, I feel blessed by a thousand years of human wisdom, and though it sounds like the commencement or convocation address for a class of students, it was actually a column that appeared in the Chicago Tribune in 1997, by then staff writer of the newspaper, Mary Schmich.

Thanks to the Chicago Tribune and Mary Schmich. . . here is, what I call, the elixir of life!

'ADVICE, LIKE YOUTH, PROBABLY JUST WASTED ON THE YOUNG' by Mary Schmich, published in the Chicago Tribune on June 1, 1997:

"Wear sunscreen.

If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.

Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.

Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 p.m. on some idle Tuesday.

Do one thing every day that scares you.

Sing.

Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.

Floss.

Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.

Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.

Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.

Stretch.

Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.

Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.

Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.

Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.

Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your own living room.

Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.

Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.

Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.

Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.

Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft.

Travel.

Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble and children respected their elders.

Respect your elders.

Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.

Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.

Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.

But trust me on the sunscreen.
"

Friday, March 20, 2009

Vacation is over!

My vacation draws to a close. This wasn’t my typical one. No traveling all over, exploring new territories or rediscovering the past. . . . no lazing around the old, unorganized ancestral house. . . that place I call my ‘home’ with not having to let the thought of doing household chores enter my mind . . . . no watching movies and gorging on home made savories . . . this was different.
In a different city, in a different house . . . . running errands, keeping a watch, thinking of others, taking care. . . . this vacation had a different purpose. . . and hopefully it served at least a part of it.

The regular day job of course, has been a nuisance throughout. . . but, what the heck! We shall overcome. . . as we always have!
The connectivity did enable me to be back in the blogging world regularly, and as I rediscover my expressions, word my thoughts. . . I feel more and more sure of myself.

Monday, March 16, 2009

Revolutionary Road

I lived within walking distance of a couple of malls and multiplexes in White Plains, so didn’t always have to go down to Manhattan to catch new releases. The snow season put brakes on my travel spree, and both factors contributed to frequent visits to movie screenings.

When I watched “The Reader”, I was certain Kate Winslet would be sixth time lucky this year. . . and I had watched “Slumdog Millionaire” much before a lot of folks in India had even heard about the movie. Jessie had introduced me to the movie when she told me how much she enjoyed it, thinking I knew about it, since it was based in the backdrop of Mumbai. Even the non-theatre-visiting Scott paid a trip to the theatre for that movie. And he told me over lunch how much he was going to root for it for the Oscars. Somehow, that movie enthralled audiences in a manner I wasn’t able to comprehend. To me, it was overhyped.

Of all the movies I saw, while I did enjoy several performances and stories, the one I could relate to most was “Revolutionary Road”. The lives of Frank and April. . and the metaphor of Paris. They said it was a story of the much hyped, but elusive American dream. I think it is the story of any individual who tries to discover himself, but becomes overwhelmed by possibilities, and gives in to 'the safe bets in life', and loses something a lot more valuable in the process.

I was intrigued by the name and the business of the company Frank worked for, after a friend pointed it out. . . he worked for ‘Knox Business Machines’, a company trying to move into computers from machines in the 1950s. That rings a bell!! How much more direct could the movie makers be! Wasn’t that movie really meant for us. . . or the likes of us?

Is the fear of becoming ‘second rate’ so great, that we always settle for the safer bet? Because most times, the way to becoming what we are meant to be isn’t a hurdle-free expressway . . .

It wasn’t just Frank and April. . . most of us live on the Revolutionary Road, with a distant dream of the Paris we want to go to. . . the paths and the ends of course, are different for all, and that makes all the difference in what each life turns out to be.

Saturday, March 14, 2009

Saying it all

Arziyan saari main chehre pe likh ke laaya hoon. . .
Tumse kya maangoon main, tum khud hi samajh lo. . .

Friday, March 13, 2009

Jessie's Drive

It isn’t Fall, but I’m thinking about it. It was lovely last year. And, thanks for telling me that it was the most spectacular in the last three decades.








I love these pictures. And I cherish the memory of being in the midst of all this. It was heaven.

Thank you, Jessie.

Thursday, March 12, 2009

March Eleventh

Just like that, in the midst of people and places I call my own, I am suddenly transported millions of miles in space and time. I start walking on the edge of the universe. . . alone, detached and unyielding. I don’t feel the warmth of affection, the pull of belonging. . . I just feel the open space around me, I feel the universe. I feel something beyond me.

Things are blurry. I live between worlds. Between layers of hope and despair, happiness and sorrow. . . between life and lack of it. Wallowing in an ocean of miserable thoughts, I suddenly feel an inexplicable reassurance. It puzzles me. But I don’t know where to direct my questions because there isn’t a place or person to go to. Sometimes, I don’t even feel the need to ask. I feel I know everything. . . but I don’t. I know I don’t, because I don’t have words that explain it. And yet, somehow I know.